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Free Will to the Rescue

30. August 2006 Kategorie General Spirit, Mind | 0 Kommentare »

I Never Knew I Had A Choice: Explorations in Personal Growth (with InfoTrac)
I Never Knew I Had A Choice: Explorations in Personal Growth (with InfoTrac)

by: Dave Czach

Today’s society and your private world are the results of free will. We have arrived here today through intention, ignorance or abuse. Some people understand and use free will daily. Some people completely deny it. And other people simply mock it and complain it “doesn’t work.”

Free will gives you the power of choice. You always have a choice. You can choose the same behavior or path you usually select. Or you can create a new result. For example, if someone calls you a “loser,” do you have a knee-jerk reaction of anger? If so, your behavior was on auto-pilot allowing a pre-programmed, subconscious trigger to surface. Completely bypassing your consciousness.

Next time, practice conscious thinking and use your free will to choose your interpretation of the event and your subsequent action. Take a second to take a deep breath to help raise your consciousness. Then decide if the “loser” statement is valid or not. If invalid, let it roll off your back. Remembering that most negative opinions are simply people’s expressions of something they don’t like about themselves. If the “loser” statement holds some truth - or is dead-on accurate - control your emotions. Don’t become angry. Allow the trigger to surface. And release the trigger.

The rise of negative triggers is a blessing in disguise. By using your free will and taking a second to raise your consciousness, you can identify a mental or emotional block. By asking the right questions within, you will be able to release the emotions of the trigger and experience growth in your personal and/or spiritual journey.

In the end, the quality of your life depends on daily usage of your free will to raise your consciousness and positively control your life. In doing so, you can shine brightly as intended.

About The Author
Dave Czach is an “experiential” mind-body-spirit researcher since 1991. He is also the publisher of the free and insightful newsletter at http://iWantSelfHelp.com/news.

Energy Health for Women

30. August 2006 Kategorie General Spirit, Body, Spirit | 0 Kommentare »

New Dimensions in Women\'s Health, Third Edition
New Dimensions in Women\’s Health, Third Edition

by Carol Tuttle

Everything at its finest level of creation is energy. We are exchanging energy and silently communicating energetically with every person with whom we come into contact. Energy impressions are always our first impressions that influence what we think or feel about others.

Everyone has an invisible energy system that flows energy on pathways or meridians. These same meridians have multiple pressure points that have been a means of working with the energy to keep it flowing. Acupressure, acupuncture, and reflexology are the more common modalities we have in the Western world.

The Chinese term for energy is “chi” which means life force energy. When our energy is blocked, scrambled or leaking, we feel depleted and heavy. When you are energy-depleted, it is more difficult to manage your emotions, think positive thoughts and stay healthy.

In the field of holistic health, energy medicine and energy psychology are growing rapidly. As a practitioner of energy therapies, I have assisted numerous women who are energy challenged.

I recently assisted a woman who was bedridden due to a severe case of chronic fatigue. After eight weeks of working with her body’s energy system to restore it to good health and teaching her how to take care of her own energy health, she has had a miraculous recovery. She is out of bed and fully active. Her parents see it as a miracle. Our energy responds very quickly when we know what to do to correct it. After all, it’s just energy.

The following are some of the most common energy problems for women and their corrections:

1. Taking on other people’s emotional energy. Our energies are magnetic in nature. A common codependent pattern for women is< to play the role of a "pleaser." The primary dysfunction of this role is to always put others' needs before your own. Women that are pleasers tend to be very psychic in nature. This helps them know what others need without even having to ask. A common aspect of this role is to take on the negative emotion other people are feeling or processing.

Emotion is energy in motion. We can attract that energy to us when we are not safeguarded from it. It is possible to take on the energy of people you do not even know! It can even happen at the grocery store. All you want to do is go in and buy a gallon of milk, and you leave not only with the milk but also with the sadness and loneliness of ten other women in the store!

Children process a lot of negative energy for their parents. If you are stressed, your children intuitively are aware of that and can play the role of trying to "please" or "act-out" in response to the negative energy you are running.

In the early days of my studies of energy medicine, my daughter would come home from junior high school nearly every day with a headache. As I came to understand this dynamic of taking on other people's energies, I realized she was doing that sub-consciously at school. I helped her correct it, and the headaches eventually subsided.

Correction: Your central meridian is one of your primary energy pathways that runs from your pubic bone up to your bottom lip. It is like a radio receiver that channels other people's negative thoughts and emotions into you. Pretend you have a zipper running up your torso between these two points. "Zip up" your central meridian starting at your pubic bone and continuing until you reach your bottom lip. "Zipping up" your central meridian will "zip-up" your energy. You will feel more confident and positive about yourself and your world, think more clearly, and be able to protect yourself from the negative energies around you. "Zip up" your children before they go to school.

2. Leaking energy. We have another invisible energy system called chakras. Whereas meridians are an energy transportation system, chakras are energy stations. The word chakra means disk, vortex, or wheel. There are seven energy stations positioned from the base of your spine to the top of your head. In energy health, if you are losing or leaking energy at the base chakra located at the bottom of your spine, you may feel depression, anxiety and exhaustion.

Many women are energy depleted because they are not able to hold enough life force energy or chi. In this energy condition, you are flushing energy down and away from you, much like a toilet flushes water down. In order to maintain good energy health, you want energy spiraling up into your base chakra.

Correction: When there is a leak, you have to patch it. Close your eyes and imagine you can see the energy leaking out of your tailbone. Imagine a patch large enough to cover the leak. Place the patch over the leak. Imagine you can go beneath the energy and reverse the flow to spiral it up into your body through your tailbone.

3. Homolateral energy flow. The left hemisphere of the brain sends information to the right side of your body, and the right hemisphere sends information to the left side. This crossing of energy helps you feel more balanced, think more clearly, and improves your coordination. When your energies are not crossing, they are running a homolateral pattern-straight up and down the body. In this state you cannot access or utilize your brain's full capacity or your body's full intelligence.

Babies naturally have a homolateral flow. It is the function of crawling that initiates the energies flowing in a crossover pattern. Everyone that I have assisted with CFS and Epstein Barr has a homolateral energy flow. People who actively participate in a regular exercise program usually have healthy crossover patterns.

Correction: To cross your energies and keep them flowing in a healthy crossover flow, march in place lifting the opposite leg and arm simultaneously for about 20 steps. Or just get on the ground and start crawling! Encourage your baby to crawl and delay walking until they are 12 months old. Early walking interferes with their energy establishing a healthy crossover flow.

My oldest daughter walked at nine months as a result of eager parents! She was challenged all the way up through high school in math, reading and spelling. In grade school, she was tutored on a regular basis. When she was 16, I was introduced to this process. I showed her the correction, and she faithfully marched daily. By the end of her senior year in high school, she was awarded a scholarship to a local university and has been on the Dean's list ever since.

There is much to be learned about energy health and taking care of our own energies. Good resources are Carol Tuttle's book, Remembering Wholeness: A Personal Handbook for Thriving in the 21st Century, and Donna Eden's book, Energy Medicine, about how to boost your body's energy.

Carol Tuttle, author of Remembering Wholeness: A Personal Handbook for Thriving in the 21st Century, is a gifted energy health practitioner. She is board-certified as a master level rapid-eye therapist, a form of energy psychology. She has assisted hundreds of clients restore their physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health. For more information on her work and writings go to http://www.caroltuttle.com

The Continuing Experience of Enchantment: Get Ready for Practice, Practice, Practice! – Pt 2 of 2

30. August 2006 Kategorie General Spirit, Mind, Body, Spirit | 0 Kommentare »

by Barbara Becker Holstein

Thank you for staying with me. Let us continue to explore our basic needs and find ways to bring a sense of wholeness and enchantment into our lives. We will end with an exercise for you to practice.

Enchantment involves more than merely meeting one’s basic needs, it also involves valuing one’s basic needs. Yet it cannot be activated and maintained without certain negotiating skills. It also involves valuing one’s own Positive Fingerprints and Shadow Prints of the mind. Positive Fingerprints are actual memories were we have intentionally gone by and gleaned positive feelings and/or knowledge. Shadow Prints are more vague, but also contain within them are positive feelings and impressions from the past.

Without these unique memories and impressions that create a pathway to building a positive self-narrative, these positive building blocks of our uniqueness are lost to others and, more sadly, to ourselves.

We need our Positive Fingerprints and Shadow Prints of the mind so that our present and future will be able to reflect our talents, interests and potential. For if I deny the beauty and specialness of my own uniqueness, I am again locked out of the real experience of enchantment.

Personal enchantment is not a group activity. It remains a private exercise … leading to a sense of integrity and wholeness. Only the person herself knows if she is in a state of enchantment or disenchantment. Here is an activity to get you started, geared to emphasizing positive self-regard.

Exercise: A Play Date with Your Own Enchantment!

1. Please write down five positive comments about yourself. For example, “You are a most courteous and helpful person.” “You are always there for me.” “I can always trust you.” You can make these statements in the first person or the third person, whichever is one comfortable for you. For example, you could state, “I’m a courageous person who tries to help others out, even at great cost to myself.” Or you could say, “You are a most courageous person who is willing to help others out, even at great cost to yourself.”

After you have made your list of five positive remarks you’d like to hear about yourself, put this piece of paper in your wallet or pocketbook. Read it to yourself at least once a day for one week. You may think of other positive statements you’d like to add, or you may get tired of certain ones and delete them. That’s fine. Just keep the number around five.

2. After a week, answer the following questions:

(a) How did you feel reading these remarks?
(b) Were there remarks you wished you could have made but honestly felt you didn’t deserve? If so, what do you think are some of the things you might need to work on before you can legitimately make a particular statement? Jot down some of those things. Try to be objective. Is your list realistic? Too perfectionistic? If it is perfectionistic, try to make it more realistic.

Remember that incorporating positive self-regard requires practice and repetition just as incorporating negative self-statements required repetition. If you find this exercise uncomfortable at this time, return to it later.

*This article–with minor changes throughout–came from my book, THE ENCHANTED SELF, A Positive Therapy. The body of the article can be found on pages 184-l85 and the exercise on page 104.

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein is the originator of The Enchanted Self. She has been a positive psychologist in private practice and licensed in the states of New Jersey and Massachusetts since 1981. Her book, The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy, was published in 1997 by Harwood Academic Publishers and is now in its second printing. She has just published her second book on the concept of enchantment: Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU!

Dr. Holstein speaks regularly on radio programs around the country, and appears on television in New York and New Jersey. Her inspiring audio files can be found on the web at http://www.Ladybuglive.com. She also gives lectures, seminars, and retreats on the concepts of enchantment and is currently in private practice in Long Branch, New Jersey with her husband, Dr. Russell M. Holstein. You may find more about Dr. Holstein and her work at: http://www.enchantedself.com

The Continuing Experience of Enchantment - Get Ready for Practice, Practice, Practice! – Part One

30. August 2006 Kategorie General Spirit, Mind, Body, Spirit | 0 Kommentare »

The Enchantment of Modern Life: Attachments, Crossings, and Ethics.
The Enchantment of Modern Life: Attachments, Crossings, and Ethics

by Barbara Becker Holstein

Thank you for joining me for this two-part article. In this segment we will learn how practicing positive self regard enhances our every day lives.

Time continues to increase my conviction that the old adage “Practice, practice, practice” is as necessary to experiencing a state of enchantment as anything else. Unfortunately, I am convinced, in general, we work much harder than we realize to stay in state of disenchantment rather than to let ourselves enjoy moments of enchantment.

We seem to practice staying in bad mood and seeing our faults and weaknesses rather than our strengths. Do we really feel that worry will help a situation, rather than patiently figuring out appropriate, more positive action? The ultimate solution is often simple, though the road to a permanent state of well-being requires practice and continual awareness and work.

The truth is: most of us get in the way of our good mental health. We may experience a lonely or sad emptiness inside, suffer a sense of disconnection from ourselves, or have repetitive occurrences of bad moods or self-generating negative messages.

We constantly interrupt our potential for achieving positive states by permitting fears or the counting of our woes to take away potentially precious moments. Many of us lack a sense of comfort about being with ourselves in our own mental space, and within our own body. We forget how to recognize and emphasize our blessings.

My clients remind me every day of how we can get in our own way. I remind myself too, as I strive to maintain the wonderful sense of oneness with myself and the world that I call THE ENCHANTED SELF.

This “oneness,” if examined, is a reflection of and a daring to use in new ways suitable for the present moment, our own unique talents, interests, potentials and individual life experiences.

More and more I realize that maintaining enchantment is not a trivial activity. It involves more than positive self-regard, yet it has no psychic power without the foundation of positive self-regard.

Please stay with me. Next time we will continue to explore our basic needs and find ways to bring a sense of wholeness and enchantment into our lives.

*This article–with minor changes throughout–came from my book, THE ENCHANTED SELF, A Positive Therapy. The body of the article can be found on pages 184-l85 and the exercise on page 104.

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein is the originator of The Enchanted Self. She has been a positive psychologist in private practice and licensed in the states of New Jersey and Massachusetts since 1981. Her book, The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy, was published in 1997 by Harwood Academic Publishers and is now in its second printing. She has just published her second book on the concept of enchantment: Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU!

Dr. Holstein speaks regularly on radio programs around the country, and appears on television in New York and New Jersey. Her inspiring audio files can be found on the web at http://www.Ladybuglive.com. She also gives lectures, seminars, and retreats on the concepts of enchantment and is currently in private practice in Long Branch, New Jersey with her husband, Dr. Russell M. Holstein. You may find more about Dr. Holstein and her work at: http://www.enchantedself.com

Is it possible to have too much Emotional Intelligence?

30. August 2006 Kategorie General Spirit, Mind | 0 Kommentare »

The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book
The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book

by Susan Dunn

Someone emailed me recently, “Do you think it’s possible to have
too much emotional intelligence going on? To the point that perhaps logic takes a backseat?”

Good question. The fact is, we need both IQ and EQ. You can’t have “too much” emotional intelligence, but that doesn’t mean at
the expense of logic.

It’s time to use logic, for instance, when figuring out a budget,
or making a timeline for a project. Then there’s a time to use
emotional intelligence - using leadership skills, for instance, to
get those people to make that timeline and project happen.

Emotional intelligence means using all your faculties, including logic and reason, to bring about results that are favorable. It means having the flexibility and creativity to see alternatives.

Say you’re presented with a highly-charged emotional situation, for
instance. You’re furious with your partner and would like to hit him. Your EQ would tell you to manage that emotion, to stop and
think. Your “thinking brain” would then consider the possible
consequences of your act — seriously hurting him, going to jail,
harming the relationship irreparably, feeling shame and guilt
afterwards, and other things that are not in your best interest. At the same time, you could use your empathy to try and see things from their point of view.

There are times when logic does need to take a back seat, for
instance when we need to use our hearts in managing a misbehaving
toddler. Logic and reason aren’t of much use with a two year old.
They also aren’t of much use in figuring out the big questions in
life, like why bad things happen to good people.

Emotional intelligence means managing emotions so you can take action in the best interest of all concerned. This also requires using your thinking brain!

To learn more about emotional intelligence, go to The EQ Coach.

Don’t Believe….Know!

30. August 2006 Kategorie General Spirit, Mind | 0 Kommentare »

by: David Taylor

The spiritual evolution of the this planet and its inhabitants is currently in a rapid state of change, a new era is being born, and we are no longer content to be believers, as sheep in a “flock”. People are waking up to the knowledge that we can be masters of our own destiny, and are looking to the ancient cultures who have survived to show us the way forward.

How can we break free from our definitions, when we are bound by systems, and rules and regulations, and “normal procedures” . What escape routes are there when all we know is all we have been taught. What is there outside the world we know, and how can we find it and finally be free.

Ancient knowledge and practices from Shamanism, Wicca, Vodou, Druidism and many others are being used and adapted to our modern lives to re-connect us to the worlds of spirit. We are re-discovering that everything in our universe has energy, consciousness, vibration and a power of its own, something the ancients have always known.

By lovingly connecting ourselves to this universal energy, we can know that everything within it has its own spirit, and is connected to everything else. Deep personal transformations can occur as we align ourselves to the loving universal consciousness, giving us back the power to create our own personal spirituality, and to KNOW spirit to the very core of our being.

“I don’t believe, I know.” Carl Jung.

“You are not my enemies, you are my brothers and sisters. You did not do anything to me or my people. All that happened a long time ago in the lives of our ancestors. And, at that time I might actually have been on the other side. We are all children of the Great Spirit, we all belong to Mother Earth. Our Planet is in great trouble and if we keep carrying old grudges and do not work together, we will all die.” Chief Seattle.

“There is no one who can take our place. Each of us weaves a strand in the web of creation. There is no one who can weave that strand for us. What we have to contribute is both unique and irreplaceable. What we withhold from life is lost to life. The entire world depends upon individual choices.” Duane Elgin.

The Abraxas Foundation of Lightwork and Spiritual Knowledge was created in 2005 by David Taylor to raise Spiritual awareness through the exploration and use of Ancient and Modern Spiritual practices. www.Abraxas3654.co.uk

Divining Today

28. August 2006 Kategorie Spirit | 0 Kommentare »

Medicine Cards: The Discovery of Power Through the Ways of Animals
Medicine Cards

by Sandra Mizumoto Posey, Ph.D.

The materials are laid out before you: cards, stones, coins, even the stray leaves in your teacup. You puzzle over the swords, cups, wands, and circles, or perhaps an unfamiliar alphabet, or even something as seemingly simple as a series of lines, broken and unbroken. And let’s face it, of all the world’s most perplexing mysteries, certain questions assert themselves at the forefront of our thoughts: Does he/she still love me? Will I get a promotion? How can I improve my health? Where will this road take me? They’re personal issues, the stuff of daily worries, the building blocks of our days.

But is this sort of divination really about the future or is it about now? Divinatory tools are triggers. We begin by recognizing its symbols, picking out the ones that resonate with us first. Some tools already comprise a sophisticated and complex language. When you learn its symbolic alphabet, you can begin to read its message, which is really a message from you to you. While the same symbols may present themselves to you or another reader, how you build the sentences from these esoteric words is yours alone. And by bypassing the language you use daily to communicate the mundane, it’s possible for you to leap from left brain to right, delving into personal truths that are beyond mere logic.

Before casting runes or dealing cards, ask yourself what it is that you are seeking of divination. Determine whether or not you will only see what you want to see. What will change about your outlook or your actions if the answer is the opposite? Will you repeat your reading until you find what you were hoping for? Or are you truly ready to take what is given and accept the fact that what you hope for may not be what is best, that the problem you hope to solve likely has its answer within yourself rather than without, and that no matter what promises you perceive the cards to have given you, you still have to live with your reality today. Divination, in other words, is not an escape. It is not an easy way out. If used mindfully, it will help you to see the mountains you must climb, not avoid them.

Once you have accepted this, the method you choose for divination is largely irrelevant. There is no one way that is better than the rest. Ultimately, you need to go with the form that resonates with you most. While it may seem like an ambiguous statement, you will know what form is right for you. Don’t belabor the issue. You are not tied to this deck or this method for the rest of your life. If something feels right, go with it. At a later point, more likely than not, this will shift and change, probably many times.

The most popular forms today are probably tarot cards (in one form or another) and Norse runes. Divination tools, however, are diverse beyond imagining. You can divine with almost anything. In ancient times, there were those who found truth by looking at the fresh entrails of a newly slaughtered beast, so if you want to find answers in the specks of fat dotting your breakfast sausage, go to it. A few more common methods include cartomancy, divining with cards; palmistry, analyzing the lines and contours of the human hand; tasseography, divining in a tea or coffee cup; phrenology, the analysis of the human head; and bibliomancy, finding answers by choosing random passages from the bible or another text.

The key to successful divination is to achieve an almost meditative state before your chosen instrument. For this reason, the practice of meditation in general is a valuable habit to acquire. Essentially, you are seeking to achieve a waking dream state in which your mind is not chattering on in its normal manner, preoccupied with sundry worries, and begin a journey of free association and storytelling with a willingness to let your mind go wherever it chooses to take you. No matter how unrelated an image, idea, or word may seem when it first flits across your thoughts, do not fight it. Don’t get in your own way. Your mind knows where it is taking you.

If you are an artist, this state of mind is familiar to you. It is that place you reach when you are not consciously choosing your colors or where the next stroke of paint will go. You are simply flowing along with it. Like driving a car, the minute you stop to analyze what you are doing, the process becomes awkward and ultimately detrimental.

The answers come from within yourself. Let them come.

Document Copyright © 1999 Spiritualitea.com & Sandra Mizumoto Posey, Ph.D., author of Cafe Nation: Coffee Folklore, Magick, & Divination (Santa Monica Press, 2000). This article may be reproduced as long as no changes, additions or deletions are made to the text. All the information in this paragraph must be included on the document whenever it is distributed or reproduced.

Celtic Spiral

28. August 2006 Kategorie General Spirit | 0 Kommentare »

by: Georgia Hinton

The ancient Spiral symbol, a swirl of a coiled circle pattern, has it’s roots in a time before the written word in Celtic society.

In many of the Celtic countries (and some not so Celtic) are found these strange signs of ancient civilization. Found most often in burial mounds and sacred caves, the meaning of the symbol is mainly conjecture.

Some have likened it to the sun, as a ritual or religious symbol in a time when the ancients were still practicing paganism. During that time it was believed that all things in nature were ruled by, or were in themselves, gods - the trees, the earth, each wind (North, South, East or West) had a god who goverened it. Many believe the Spiral is the symbol for life and the life cycle. In early times the true meaning was passed down from generation to generation, and facts (the true meanings) began to fuse with legend. It has been said that the Spiral is the interpretation by the people of the time, to be the universe, it’s spinning cycles and seasons. Many believe these Spirals to hold mystical meanings and powers and that the Spiral was a blessing or a “seal” for the one who has passed, to prevent evil from entering a sacred place - such as a tomb.

The people who made up the Celtic tribes were nomadic, so many artifacts including the Spiral have been found in far reaching areas, not usually associated with the Celts.

The fluid, serene lines of the Spiral can be viewed as a gentle whirlwind pattern, or a dizzying symbol of madness and confusion. It is said, that even today, one could enter a cave with Spiral decorated walls, and if left in solitude for any length of time, will begin to go into a dream state or halucinate, and if prone to them, have epilectic seizures.

In any case, the mystery of the Spirals continues to be just that, a mystery, and although some have come to think that it has all been explained, there still are no solid conclusions and a mystery it remains.

The Celtic spiral is available in jewelry. As an amulet or just to declare your heritage, you may find them here: http://www.liafail.net

Climbing the Belief Ladder

28. August 2006 Kategorie Mind | 0 Kommentare »

by Dan Joseph

When I was a child, I used to play a game called Word Ladders. You may have played this game yourself. In the Word Ladders game, you change one word to another by shifting one letter at a time. What makes the game challenging is that each of the middle steps have to be legitimate words themselves.

For example, let’s say that you wanted to change “cat” to “dog.” Here is how the word ladder might unfold:

Cat
Cot
Cog
Dog

At the first step, I shifted the “a” to an “o,” changing “cat” to “cot.” Then I shifted “cot” to “cog” – again, only one letter was changed. Finally, “cog” turned to “dog.” As you can see, each of the middle steps was a legitimate word.

Here is another one for you to try. (One of several possible solutions is at the end of this newsletter):

Hot



Tea

Word Ladders is a fun game, and can be entertainingly tricky – especially when you are dealing with four- and five-letter words. The goal is to complete the ladder in as few steps as possible, though any completion is a success.

Belief Ladders

Let me now share how this game can inspire an approach to spiritual work.

For much of my life, I’ve been engaged in what psychologists call “all-or-nothing thinking.” The idea was that I either did things perfectly, or I didn’t do them at all.

For example, let’s take a practice like forgiveness. The theme of forgiveness is central to A Course in Miracles and other spiritual paths. I knew that it was important. So when I found myself angry and resentful toward someone in my life, I tried to release my hostility. I tried to practice what the Course said.

Unfortunately, most of the time, I wouldn’t be able to take the leap. I’d try to practice forgiveness, but I’d fall right back into anger and resentment. After a few attempts, I’d give up. “I can’t do this,” I’d say. “I tried to practice forgiveness, but I just couldn’t do it.”

The Climbing the Ladder practice helps at points like that. In Climbing the Ladder, you don’t try to take a leap into complete forgiveness, complete peace of mind, or complete anything else. Instead, you take a series of small, slow steps. Just as in the Word Ladders game, in which you change only one letter at a time, Climbing the Ladder involves one small belief-shift at a time.

As an example of this, let’s say that you’re feeling angry toward someone in your life. To begin the Climbing the Ladder practice, you write out your uncensored beliefs about this person. You might begin with:

This guy is a total jerk. He’s completely insensitive, rude, and mean.

In the past, as I mentioned, I’d try to leap from that type of belief into a sense of complete love. But I just couldn’t do it! I’d try, and fail, and get frustrated and give up.

Climbing the Ladder takes a different approach. In this practice, you insist on making only one small shift at a time. You actually refuse to take a leap. Let me show how the first step in this example might unfold:

This guy is a total jerk. He’s completely insensitive, rude, and mean.

(changes to)

This guy is mostly a jerk. He’s usually insensitive, rude, and mean.

Now, that new belief may not seem very “spiritual” or “high.” But it sets the mind in the right direction. It’s a small step forward. When you feel truly stable at that new rung in the ladder, you can continue. Here’s how the whole ladder might unfold:

This guy is a total jerk. He’s completely insensitive, rude, and mean.

This guy is mostly a jerk. He’s usually insensitive, rude, and mean.

This guy does act quite insensitive, rude, and mean. Perhaps he’s feeling insecure, and that’s his way of covering it up.

This guy often acts insensitive and rude. He’s probably feeling disconnected from people. Perhaps he’s feeling lonely and defensive.

This guy’s insensitivity deserves some compassion. Perhaps I can offer him kindness, which he’s not feeling.

I have a good deal of compassion and kindness to offer this person.

I have so much kindness and love within me. I can simply let it pour out to this person and others.

As you can see, the ladder evolved in gradual, progressive steps. There was no great leap. Instead, there was a series of little shifts.

When I engage in this practice, I often spend minutes, hours, or days on each step. I wait until I feel truly stable on a particular step before going forward.

Variations

This technique can be applied to the practice of self-forgiveness, as well. As an example, a few weeks ago I found myself surrounded by a series of negative thoughts about myself. I decided to use the Climbing the Ladder practice to help me out.

I began with the following belief:

I’m a complete loser. Nobody likes me.

That’s what I was thinking, and I couldn’t seem to shake it. Sometimes I am able to simply dismiss that type of belief. But on that day, I couldn’t drop it. So I decided to take things in small steps. I shifted the belief, just slightly, to:

I’m mostly a loser, and most people don’t like me.

I tried to really “sit” with that new belief for a while. The funny thing was, after a minute or so I began to feel quite irritated. “What a dumb belief!” I thought to myself. “It’s not even true!”

At that point, I was ready to take another step. I made the next shift to:

I may feel like a loser sometimes, but that doesn’t mean anything. Some people may not like me, but many people do like me.

I didn’t try to go past that new belief. I stayed on that rung of the ladder for a while. Again, after a minute or so I began to feel irritated with the belief. At that point, I was ready to move up.

I continued like this:

I may do dumb things sometimes, but that doesn’t mean that I’m a loser.

I actually have some fairly nice qualities.

I’m not a bad person, really.

I’m actually lovable, even for all my foibles.

Some of the things that I think make me a “loser” are actually quite adorable, if you look at them the right way.

At that point, I began to feel better. The whole unfolding of the ladder took only a few minutes. Instead of fighting to “leap” into a state of self-forgiveness, I took things in small steps. I waited until my mind stabilized on each new rung, and then moved forward.

To be clear, I think that it’s ideal if you can take a single leap into complete love, forgiveness, and peace. But if you’re like me, and you often find yourself “stuck,” a practice like Climbing the Ladder can help.

As a final point, Climbing the Ladder can be used in a variety of other contexts. Let’s say, for example, that you want to begin a meditation practice in the new year. Instead of trying to take a leap, you can take things in small steps.

You can say, for example, “I’m going to meditate for exactly five seconds a day.” Spend a couple of days meditating for only five seconds – no more. After a day or two of that, you’ll probably say, “Hey, I’d rather meditate for thirty seconds.” Then perhaps a minute. Then a few minutes. You can inch along, always waiting until you’re truly ready to proceed.

Again, this type of practice reduces the tendency toward all-or-nothing thinking, which is a setup for frustration and defeat. I encourage you to experiment with this approach, and see what you find.

PS: Here is one of several solutions to the Hot -> Tea Word Ladder:

Hot
Tot
Toe
Tee
Tea

Dan Joseph is the author of Inner Healing and Inspired by Miracles, two books inspired by A Course in Miracles. Dan invites you to sign up for his free monthly newsletter at http://www.DanJoseph.com.

Being Peace

28. August 2006 Kategorie Spirit | 0 Kommentare »

by Robert Rabbin

“In the hearts of people today there is a deep longing for peace. When the true spirit of peace is thoroughly dominant, it becomes an inner experience with unlimited possibilities. Only when this really happens, when the spirit of peace awakens and takes possession of men’s hearts, can humanity be saved from perishing.”
Albert Schweitzer“Peace is not a relationship of nations. It is a condition of mind brought about by a serenity of soul. Peace is not merely the absence of war. It is also a state of mind. Lasting peace can come only to peaceful people.”
Jawaharlal Nehru

The greatest weapon of mass destruction is the attitude of militarism within the human mind. The missiles and bombs from this arsenal are more lethal than anything we could find in trailers and bunkers and silos. However many weapons might be found, however many might be destroyed, ten more will appear for every one that disappears. We will not be safe until the attitude of militarism is dismantled; we will not be safe until the attitude of true peace is created as the rule of law for persons and nations alike.

The human race has come to this precise point in its brief history: change, or perish. There is no middle ground. Weapons of mass destruction are proliferating like toxic clouds within the minds of so many people whose power threatens civilization throughout the world. Change, or perish. Let us change. We already know about militarism; we already know about this barbarism. We do not yet know about peace. So let us learn, and then change.

There is no more urgent question than this: How can I make peace real? How are we to meet violence with nonviolence, to meet war with peace, to meet fear with love, to meet hatred with compassion? How are we to dismantle the attitude of militarism and install the attitude of peace, within our own minds and within the very structure of society? It is, first and foremost, a choice, a decision, a commitment, a stand. In this moment in which the world is trembling and reeling with angry passions and violent convictions, we must call for peace, stand for peace, and act for peace. We must accept only peace. But first, we must become peace itself, not an idea or image of peace, not the rhetoric of peace, but actual peace, the peace in which violence cannot arise, the peace in which the attitude of militarism cannot survive.

We must seek that peace, know that peace, and become that peace. How do we do this? We can do this through understanding, and through reflection, and through empathy. We must understand that we already are peace. It is called the soul, and it is given to all in equal measure as a flame of the Creator’s fire, full of love and joy–this is the soul, and this is peace. Regardless of what our mind may say, regardless of what today’s headlines may say, regardless of what society may say, peace is the essential nature of all human beings. This is the savage irony of our times and of the human condition: within each of us is the loving and peaceful flame of the Creator, and yet we continue to accept violence and war as though they were as natural as sunlight. They are not. They are an aberration, a disease; and the medicine is experiencing the reality of the soul. We cannot kill our way to peace. We cannot bomb our way to safety. We must understand that within the soul of all human beings is peace.

How do we find our way to the soul? How do we live from the soul? We have to reflect deeply on the nature of the mind, we have to reflect deeply on the nature of thoughts and beliefs. Even if this seems unrealistic, we must do this. We must come to know that Silence which waits for us just beneath the ragged surface of the mind. We must sit together in Silence. We must join with others in Silence. We must let Silence illuminate and transform the hateful delusions of demagoguery. This is how we enter the soul. We must learn to be Silent, and from within this Silence we wash ourselves clean of anger, fear, and hatred. And we must question our beliefs about self and other, we must inquire into the origin and nature of anger and retribution, of fear and hostility. We must, in a word, become wise, in the way towering trees are wise, and glaciers, and tides. We must become wise, like deserts and mountains: Silent, profound, majestic.

Entering this Silence is discovering our soul, and from within the infinite beauty of our soul, we know peace, we become peace. We must do this now, today, and tomorrow, and every day for the rest of our lives: for our own sake, and for the sake of our families, our communities, our world.

But do not be fooled: Silence is not passive. Silence is not weak. Silence is not mute. The Silence of which I speak is the mind and heart of the universal soul: it is active, strong, and loud. And it is peaceful. And it is unconquerable. When we become truly peaceful within, we will create peace without.

This is the work that we must all take up, now and for the rest of our days. There is no greater work than this. There is no greater wealth than this. There is no greater philosophy than this. There is no greater security than this. There is no greater justice than this. There is no greater contribution than this. There is no greater truth than this.

You do not have to take my word for it. You know this for yourself. You know it now, resting in your soul, resting in the depths of your being. Here, we find each other. Here, we find our lost love and compassion. Here, in this depth, we find that truth which is beyond differences, beyond dogmas, beyond justifications. It is the universal soul, and its face shines with beauty, with tenderness, with love, with compassion, with forgiveness. But most of all, it shines the same in all, and we must learn to feel this as a living truth.

Our world risks losing this soul, if we do not find it within ourselves and if we do not then stand and move and speak and act in the world with the full weight and measure and power of this soul found again within our own depth of being where the Creator placed it.

Do not be fooled by the shrill voices that call upon your fears and urge you to war, to violence, to brutality. Do not do this. Turn away from this noise and enter the Silence of your soul. Entering this place, then find new mouths and new words, new hands and new actions, new hearts and new compassion. Let the children waiting in celestial realms be suddenly happy at the prospect of coming to Earth.

Let us now resolve to enter the depths of Silence every day, let us resolve to purify our mind and heart in these still waters, let us resolve to wash away all anger and hatred and fear in these still waters, that we may find the peace, the love, the joy that is within us and that we share these soul-treasures freely with one another in friendship and mutual respect.

Let us affirm that we are peace, and knowing that we are peace, let us also affirm that we will stand for peace, speak for peace, and create peace in each hour of each day.

Though there is a great army of those who prefer violence, we must create an even greater army of people who choose peace. Once we find our way into the spiritual heart, into the silence of the soul, into the very mind of God and then into Oneness with all of life — we have no choice but to live in peace.

But we can be strong and active in our love. We can be mighty in our peaceful ways. We can work long and hard to eradicate the true cause of violence, which is poverty of spirit. We must work to enrich our own understanding, to unfurl the flag of peace within our own heart. We must find strength and solace in our own inner light and peace, and then we must spread this light and peace throughout the world in real and telling ways, even dramatic ways.

© 2004/Robert Rabbin/All rights reserved
Robert Rabbin is a writer, speaker, and spiritual activist. He is the author of numerous books and articles, and the creator of TruthForPresident.org, an online spiritual activism center. For contact information, please visit www.robrabbin.com or www.truthforpresident.org